First day of training at Condomania
We did a fairly interesting activity, which I'll repeat here.
1. List your own views and values on sexuality.
- natural equality between sexes
- friendship
- a demystified sexuality
- heterosexual
- rigid family structure
- pleasure and happiness in sex and relationship
2. List factors or sources that form or affect your values and views
- cultural beliefs, traditions
- parents, family education, childhood
- language
- discussionwith friends
- readings
- school
- philosophy, critical thinking
- media and stories
3. List the things which can hinder your role as a discussion leader in a classroom setting
- clash of values and grounds
- bias on heterosexuality
- bias on relationship or family structures
- overlooking of religion
- male point of view
- theoretical point of view
Hmm. I'm struggling a bit with my own views. For sure I'm tremendously influenced by Western "deconstuctionism" (Monsieur Derrida I'm sure will not be very happy with me abusing his term); that's my reason for believing in natural equality of the sexes. On the other hand, from my own traditional education and cultural setting, I also believe in a rigid family structure, and that (given the Chinese family structure is patriarchal) presents some problems when it clashes with deconstructionism. The word "friendship" is interesting here because I think that in dealing with the issue of sexuality, it must be an intimiate discourse between two or more people; how we treat our friends in terms of sexuality will be how we treat strangers according to their sex, so the issue of sexuality must grounded on "friendship". "Please and happiness" is a weird proposition; but too often we feel the need to make sacrifices for the sake of "love"; there are many stories of how one sacifices "sex" for "love". For me, they must go hand in hand; it's ridiculous for one person to ask the partner for sexual favours to show one's love (in my little research last week I've seen a few of these articles).
We'll see how in the upcoming weeks, after more sessions, if my opinions and views have changed.
1. List your own views and values on sexuality.
- natural equality between sexes
- friendship
- a demystified sexuality
- heterosexual
- rigid family structure
- pleasure and happiness in sex and relationship
2. List factors or sources that form or affect your values and views
- cultural beliefs, traditions
- parents, family education, childhood
- language
- discussionwith friends
- readings
- school
- philosophy, critical thinking
- media and stories
3. List the things which can hinder your role as a discussion leader in a classroom setting
- clash of values and grounds
- bias on heterosexuality
- bias on relationship or family structures
- overlooking of religion
- male point of view
- theoretical point of view
Hmm. I'm struggling a bit with my own views. For sure I'm tremendously influenced by Western "deconstuctionism" (Monsieur Derrida I'm sure will not be very happy with me abusing his term); that's my reason for believing in natural equality of the sexes. On the other hand, from my own traditional education and cultural setting, I also believe in a rigid family structure, and that (given the Chinese family structure is patriarchal) presents some problems when it clashes with deconstructionism. The word "friendship" is interesting here because I think that in dealing with the issue of sexuality, it must be an intimiate discourse between two or more people; how we treat our friends in terms of sexuality will be how we treat strangers according to their sex, so the issue of sexuality must grounded on "friendship". "Please and happiness" is a weird proposition; but too often we feel the need to make sacrifices for the sake of "love"; there are many stories of how one sacifices "sex" for "love". For me, they must go hand in hand; it's ridiculous for one person to ask the partner for sexual favours to show one's love (in my little research last week I've seen a few of these articles).
We'll see how in the upcoming weeks, after more sessions, if my opinions and views have changed.
posted by Tristan at 11:05 p.m.
3 Comments:
do you know Jasmine Lin? I believe she's also doing Condomania
I question...
With whom are you comfortable to discuss sexuality in your personal life?
Family? Friends? Significant Other?
Strangers? Yourself?
Kenneth
and to what extent?
Kenneth
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